Is romance dead? Or is it just me?
I don’t tell many of my customers at the Pub about my writing. I mean they know I write, but when they ask what I write I just say fiction/short stories. I’ll tell some of them that it’s erotica but not many because, really, it’s none of their business. Anyway, I was having a great conversation with one woman the other night about goals and motivation and stuff. My writing came up and I was open about the fact that the stories I had published were erotica. She asked me, “Do you write erotica so you can pretend to be someone else?”
My answer was, “No, that’s why I write romance.”
It brought to mind the fact that the only man I’ve ever received flowers from is my Dad. That I’ve never actually been on a dinner date, or a movie date, or a picnic, or any of those other things that are supposed to be “˜common dating rituals’.
Is this true for most of the single women today? Is this normal? Is romance still alive and well out there and I’m just not seeing it, or is it dying a slow death that will only live on in novels? 😥
Hubby works so many hours that when he is home, he’s sleeping. But when we were engaged and before the girls started coming, we did go on dates. Although, I will admit, he never brought me flowers, no matter how much I said I wanted them, until the girls came. Up until then, he’d say something like "Here’s the money, go buy them yourself." LOL My reply was always the same "I have the money silly, I want YOU to buy them for me..what’s the point of my buying my own flowers?" ROFL But I will say this…he’s gotten better about stuff like that. We’ll be married 14 years in August and he’s bought my flowers a few times "just because" and not because I nagged him into getting them for me. *G*
That’s the best! When they buy them "just because". Sounds like you have a good man!
Woman complain when they don’t get romance, men complain when they don’t get sex, or enough sex, or if you want it when they don’t. :O I will buy flowers for myself, romantic around here is taking me golfing. I am trying to think of the most romantic thing he had done for me…lol can’t :hehe:. I do think that if you read romance you may be expecting to much, I have heard of some men that read romance, but then again there idea is different then ours.
😀 the second time I met hubby was at a Church Picnic, he looked great without a shirt… :hehe: now I am like put it back on!
I don’t know Dianna. I don’t think expecting them to ask me out to dinner on my night off instead of just asking me to go home with them after work is expecting too much. :laugh:
:)No Sasha it isn’t expecting to much to be asked to dinner…I just meant in general.
I’ve gotten flowers from a man five times:
1) I-wanna-sleep-with-you
2) Go out with me?
3) REALLY go out with me?
4) I’m sorry.
5) It’s Valentine’s Day!
Th only other times I’ve gotten flowers is for having a baby (three bouquets!), for this website (thank you!), and for finalling in Golden Heart. Oh, yeah, and when I was really little, my Dad gave me some flowers after two of my dance recitals because I was his "star." 🙂
I can pretty much, categorically, empirically state, that if no man has given you flowers, you are ignoring the men who would like to. I could say more… but this is such a tiny box…
Why Clive, Does that mean you would be interested in giving me flowers? 😉
Lets see…I think Romance is off on some island somewhere with Chivalry and they’ve taken to island ways :hehe:
Okay seriously, one boyfriend brought me a dozen roses–he was late–he’s also the first to really break my heart.
The ex did flowers one valentines day but it felt half-assed. As if he didnt want to look bad in front of his brother. He didnt even buy my card ahead of time. I should have known not to marry him then. :plain: