It’s Wednesday already? Sept 7th?
Where has the time gone? My Lord, I really think I am living in my own world at times. It’s almost an alternate universe. In SashaLand, the weather is nice, the computer is fast, the time is slow, so’s the pizza delivery guy, and I only need to do laundry once every three weeks.
Ok, in reality, I spent most of the weekend writing, but I’m still not done THE CRIB. (almost 3/4 done) I got a bit done on BOUND, (which will be the Berkley novel) and I did up the one page idea for my next Kensington novella. Oh, and I did laundry and went to the gym a couple times. 😀
Late Monday night (or early Tuesday morning, depending on if you live in the real world or SashaLand) I sent the new story idea to my editor, along with the first half of THE CRIB. I think he’ll like the story idea. I think it’ll rock. (Psst! It’s another bad girl story.) However, I’m anxiously awaiting his comments on the first half of THE CRIB. I’m not normally so tense about things like this, but it’s my first story for Kensington, and I want to get it right. So I’m trying to forget I sent it to him so I don’t panic that he’s read it, and is now taking his time trying to find a way to let me down gently.
In an effort to take my mind off it, I accepted a date with a guy I met from that online ad I place a long time ago. I haven’t actually checked the mailbox on it in a long time, not after that man 1 fiasco, however, Beth and I were chatting the other day about my lack of relationships, and I figured I’d check it out again.
He looked really nice, his profile wa great. We chatted on instant messenger for a bit, had a lot in common, said let’s meet for a drink. So, after a day of writing and checking my email every 5 mins waitign for a response from my editor, I showered and made an effort to step out of SashaLand.
He stood me up.
OK, so he emailed an hour before I was supposed to meet him to say he wouldn’t make it. But I’d already left as it takes me 20 minutes to drive to the meeting place, and since the cafe was in the mall, I decided to stop at the bookstore before seeing him. Still, an hour is cutting it close isn’t it?
I’m new to this dating stuff…tell me… should I give the guy another chance? I think I’ll see how much effort HE makes to try and connect again. 😉
Maybe I’ll stop wearing my headphones at the gym too. Beth says then maybe one of the hot guys there will try and chat me up. That would impress me, because that would mean he’d have looked past the fact that I don’t comb my hair before I go the gym, and I wear the biggest baggiest tshirt possible 😎
Help me out here people? Any advice on how to get a date?
Eve~ I love my yummy man pics. 😛
Hollie~ I have asked a guy or two out before. ANd have been turned down each time. I just don’t know what’s wrong with me. :laugh:
Beth~ Good question. LOL
Strangely , I’m not upset by any of this. Normally being stood up, and thinking about the guys that have turned me down woudl sorta depress me. Yet, it’s not this time. I think I may be, uhmm, coming to terms with being single forever. 🙂 Could be that I’m just too preocupied with writing too. :rolleyes:
I think you should give him another shot, but I’d leave connecting firmly in his court.
Only if he asks very, very, VERY nicely.
And apologizes for the last time.
And shows up early to make up for it…so early he catches you as you’re coming out of the shower…and he’s buff and good-looking, and with this sexy little half smile, volunteers to help you finish drying off…and he’s got these huge hands with nice, sensitive fingers that…
Oh. Sorry. Got carried away. :blush:
If he’s nice, give him another shot, sure. 🙂
Just read the Man 1 incident. I don’t think it’s b/c you slept with him early. I think guys just have their minds made up before you even give it up as to how they are going to approach the situation. He sounds like he just wanted to get some as. Some guys are just in it for the chase, and for them, once is all they need to feed their ego.
As for dating, unfortunately it’s like verything else – trial and error. You rarely like the first set of shoes you try on (see, I am talking in terms that women can relate to, I am soooo cool). Just keep trying. You will find all sorts of men out there. Guys who become friends, ones who become fuck buddies, boyfriends, cheaters, scum…all kinds. No way to weed out the bad ones short of experiencing them and them burning the phone numbers.
Trust me, guys go through the same thing with women. They all just want me for sex. HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH
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I have to admit, I like the way Raine see’s things going. 😛
Os~ I love you, Dude. Too bad you live so far away or I’d be trying you on for size. 😉
Dianna~ You gave him half an hour? Well, you’r more patient than me. I gave him ten minutes. LOL
Yes, by all means, lose the headphones. I wear headphones at the gym too, then complain I don’t make friends there. Well, duh, I took my headphones off and started chatting more, making eye contact more and voila! More friends. 🙂
As far as the guy who stood you up, giving him a second chance and all, it depends. We’re all different, with different needs and different types of men make us happy. I have to be adored. I have to. I have to be catered to and worshipped and if a guy didn’t grovel all over the place at having to break a date with me, even if we hadn’t met yet, and promised to make it up to me with the moon and the stars in tow, well then…forget it.
Now, you probably think that’s the opposite reaction for someone with my…er…sexual predilections. *grins* But the way I see it, no guy gets close to me without an awful lot of work on his end.
There is a great surprise in store for them if they work at it, but they gotta make the effort.
This approach has never done me wrong. Just a few thoughts. 🙂
Okay I was never really good at the dating thing and since I have been with my man for 12 years (god, has it been that long?) I can only tell you that you should trust your instincts. Was he interesting enough to you to give him a second chance to meet? Maybe he had a very legitimate reason why he suddenly couldn’t show. Find out the reason and go from there on whether your still interested or not. But, um, just my 2 cents…don’t sleep with them so soon. I know it’s a hard thing being single and going without especially when you write the stories you write, but it will pay off in the end emotionally and physically if you let yourself get to know who your "entertaining". :hehe:
Dianna, I like a woman who eyes up what she wants and goes into battle prepared.
Sasha – try me on? I am a large…..heheheheh, OK more of a medium.
I don’t know, Sasha. An hour before? Sounds like he chickened out. I probably wouldn’t give him another chance.
Congrats on sending out Crib..I know how nervewrecking that is!
Hm…dating, I haven’t been on a date in three years…so I have no decent advice for you. Does BOB count???
Paula~ Actually, no he wasn’t interesting enough to give anohter chance. Also, I have no doubt I could’ve waited to sleep with him. I was just hoping for someone to hang out with.
Os~ It’s your brilliant sense of humour , and obvious caring that I love Os, not your size. 😉
Trace~ I’m with you!
Vivi~ Thanks. Maybe you should come and visit me for a weekend? We can go on a man hunt. :hehe:
😀 I made it sweetie. I never got the email from you but i gotta tell you…GREAT WEBSITE! See you friday nite!
Mercedes!! You found me! Finally!! :hehe:
Sorry, I had to take a few minutes to drool at yum yum. Dating – why do you think I drool at yum yum? Only way I could get a date now was if he took my mom with us.
I do think you need to make him beg, find out if he really DID have a legitimate excuse – his ying yang fell off, his mother died, his dog ate his palm pilot. Sashaland sounds a lot like Eveville. Yeah, losing the headphones might be a good start.
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How about you asking someone out. You seem like the aggressive type. Find someone and ask him out….
I’m so proud of you, Sasha. 🙂
You connected – it’s nice that he did try to let you know he wouldn’t make it. I say give him another shot.
And definitely lose the headphones – how’s a hottie supposed to get to Sashaland if the gate’s locked? :rolleyes:
Ahhhh Raine – I like the way you think.
Sasha – You have to be in a place where you want to be, in order for others to want to be there with you (that’s from someone suffering from Alzheimer’s Caretaker Syndrome – you straighten the thought out-I know it’s there somewhere). Anyway, it sounds like you’re almost at that place – good for you! I’m still climbing.
:hehe: at least you had a nice outing inspite of the fact he didn’t show..and he did try to warn you.
The last time I went to meet a man he showed up… lol my son, the time before that was with the guy I had met online that wanted to meet for a drink, I had his phone number incase something came up that I couldn’t meet him…30 minutes after set time I phoned him, 1st he didn’t remember who I was and then after he told me to hang on the phone went dead. It would have been nice of him to leave an email before he had to go out of town on business, even though it would have been a few days before I was online again…anyway the pub was nice, I spent a very relaxing hour looking at the photos I just had developed and just people watching.
Oh and Oz I do buy the first pair of shoes that I try on if they feel confortable…but I have already decided if they are about my size and a style I like. Sounds like my marriage :hehe: :hehe:
Raine!!!!! LOL
I’m with everyone else. Give him another chance but don’t slack up on him. Otherwise i"m useless in this dept.
I like Jordan’s advice. 🙂
I agree w/Paula 🙂