So last week I chatted with a couple of guys online from the online dating thing…and I was pretty excited about meeting them. I set a time to chat to one of them, and he gave me his number as well, so I excitedly waited until that time, then signed in online and he wasn;t online, so I called, thinking I was supposed to since he’d given me his number. There was no answer so I left a message, and got an email the next day telling me he’d been golfing and he hadn’t been able to call me back becasue I never left a number.
Now,none of this is a huge big deal, but to me..it told me he wasn’t someone I’d probably get along with. Why? Becasue we made plans to be online, and he wasn;t there, or reachable by phone at the set time. That would’ve been okay if there was a great reason, and golfing could be a good reason on a nice summer day, however, why couldn’t he have emailed and just said “Hey, I’ve got a chance togolfing so I’m not goign to be around to chat. We’ll try again later.” Or somethign liek that?
Ok, so it happened fast and he didn;t thinkto email me. But he also never even came close to apologizing for, basically, standing me up. Instead, he implied it was my fault we never chatted becasue I didn;t leave him my phone number when I left a message. None of these things are huge, but to me, they do show either a lack of respect, or an inability to accept responsability..or somethign…not sure exactly what it was about the situation that had me write him off my list mentally…and spend the weekend happily watching the last season of Buffy on DVD instead of making more plans to meet him. Then I read my horoscope for this week…check it out.
“You have excellent perceptions concerning a potential admirer. This person needs a little more scrutiny. You should withhold your trust a little longer. Focus on actual actions rather than his or her words.”
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You’re not a virgo by any chance, are you? 😛 Sasha, I wonder sometimes about these guys online. Soccerdude has basically disappeared – no call, no email, no nothing. And I’ve learnt that while I’m fine with the ‘he’s just not that interested in me’ thing, I don’t get the not calling. I mean, it’d just be nice and courteous to drop me a line, but he didn’t. Like I say, I just don’t get it. Not when another guy leaves me a text message first thing Monday morning to wish me a good day! (after one phone conversation) We met for coffee last night even though I’m sick with the flu and worried about passing on the germs!
Some of these guys just need to learn – don’t leave a girl hangin’ 👿 I mean, I don’t necessarily expect the whole ‘love at first sight’ or even ‘lust at first sight’ (though I wouldn’t mind it… :huh: ) but I do wish people would treat each other with respect. I’m a firm believer in Karma, Sasha, someway someday, it’ll bite him in the a$$. 😈
Hey, Sasha, I agree with you. That’s not a good starting point – men who think golfing is more important than women deserve to be dumped. :fight:
He should have apologized and certainly not blamed it on you for not leaving a number for pity’s sake.
I agree too Sasha.
I met this seeminly really cool dude online, he had that Owen Wilson look, and he was an extreme sportist, which I thought was pretty cool..
Anyway we started email chatting, and I’d ask him questions, and he’s always email me back with some funny little thing but NEVER answered the questions I was asking, and he NEVER asked questions about me…
He really wanted to hook up, and gave me his number, but I didn’t call him. Something was holding me back….I told him I wasn’t sure when I woudl call, and that I’m busy and we’d have to see what transpires, he emailed me back with this beaituful email about how he didnt’ want to change me, but just wanted to add some fun and excitement to my life, then went on with this scenario that would likely impress most women…but not me!
Just gave me the willies.
I guess my thing is, I really really dont’ want it happen like this…like meetign someone online…I want to MEET soemone, you know. Have that instant spark, and go from there..
But it’s hard with being mid thirties, and a self induced hermit, who the hell am I going to meet and where?
That coudl be it, Vivi. It could also be I’ve just not met anyone online that I find interesting enough to want to make the effort to leave the house and actually meet. :blush:
Right on, sweetness! I would’ve had the same reaction!! What an ass. Before Dane, I’d never really been a believer of online relationships (whether merely dating or something more substantial and serious), but seeing as we’ve been in a relationship with each other for coming up on 9 months now, I guess I’ve changed my stance on that one. LOL. But I have discovered that meeting online and developing a relationship through e-mails, IM’s, phone calls, etc. is really no different and can be just as fulfilling as a relationship that develops from physically meeting–in either case, it takes respect and communication from both people or it’ll never work.