The Path To Sexual Freedom
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The Path To Sexual Freedom

an essay by nina aoki

Nina Aoki is The Lazy Geisha one of my all time fave bloggers. She is extremely smart, sensual and sexy. And I Thank her very much for being a guest today! Go forth, read ehr essay

lazy_geisha_banner_65.pngRelax and free your mind. I want you to think about just one word and what that word means to you; femininity. How does the word femininity make you feel? If you’re a woman it should make you feel sexy, vivacious, and beautiful because you, yes you, are all of those things and so much more.

It’s been a long held belief of mine that the path to our true sexual selves, our erotic core if you will, comes from connecting with and embracing our femininity. Think about this; we were born female, and with that birthright we inherited all of the burdens and all of the blessings of being a woman, and not to sound corny, but we’re every woman. We’re the mother, the wife, the seductress, the tramp, the slut, the tease, the submissive, the dominatrix, the princess, the diva, the bitch, the girly-girl, the tomboy, the girl next door, the one night stand… just because we were blessed with being born a girl. Think about something else for a moment now, each of those words, those descriptions, all have a different meaning and conjure up a different image in our minds, but they’re all us and we’re all capable of filling each and every one of those roles, simply because we’re a woman.

Did you realize that we had so much power?

Unfortunately in the 21st century the word femininity is often equated to weakness and subservience and living a life under the thumb of some man or playing by the rules of male society, but nothing could be further from the truth. While we fought for equal rights and equal pay and equal say, all incredibly important things for us and our lives, and I’ll add that every woman alive today owes a great debt to those who’ve come before us, somewhere along the way I think we lost touch with our femininity, that which is unique to us, and which is our greatest gift.

Our sexuality is deeply tied to our femininity, and on my own journal lazygeisha.com, I’ve tried to encourage other women to explore their own sexuality by empowering them to embrace their own femininity. While that may sound simple and easy, the reality of our lives sometimes gets in the way of making that happen, but it doesn’t have to be and it shouldn’t be that way.

Being feminine doesn’t mean being weak, it means doing things for yourself which nourish and bring out those qualities which are already inside you. They’re already a part of you, so why not explore those things and give them room to breathe and grow? We’ve been told for years and years by so called sex experts and relationship experts that we should do these things to keep the men in our lives interested in us, to help feed their sexual needs; I think that’s a load of crap! I think we should do those things to keep ourselves interested in our own sexual needs and to remind ourselves why it’s so beautiful to be a woman in the first place.

Think of our bodies; our wonderful curves, our pretty features, our soft skin, our delicate hands, our sacred flower which invites our lovers to slip deep inside our bodies and our souls; we need to feed these things, for us, because it’s good for us, and it’s healthy, because we need that and because our true nature as women demands that we express this great sexuality we’ve been blessed with, and she’s within our grasp, we just have to be willing to embrace her and set her free.

The very nature of our bodies invites the male to come inside us, to fill us, complete us, make us whole. We open our legs and wrap them around our lover and pull him closer, holding his body inside of ours, tightening around him as we submit to the act of love, which is as psychological as it is physical for us, and all of this because we’re women, the pure essence of feminine.

For centuries artists, poets, writers, and philosophers have tried to capture and understand the awesome beauty of femininity, and it’s only within the last century that women truly filled the void by expressing these things in our own voices. Today women like Sasha, like me, like any of the known or unknown women you see on any street who may keep a secret diary or a private journal or even a blog where she surrenders her most sacred self… her voice through her words… to a place so that others may someday discover her and know what she felt and what it felt like to be a woman; we are the new muses, writing the new mythology so that all women may come to discover the goddess within.

It is so important that our voices never go silent and that we encourage all women everywhere to sing with that feminine voice, and to rejoice and celebrate our most cherished gift, and when we embrace this beautiful creature within each of us, only then will we have truly claimed ownership of our own sexual freedom and our power as women.

Long live the vulvacracy!

nina aoki writes the erotic journal lazygeisha.com

Nina’s 101 things about Nina on her site, inspired my own 69 things about Sasha. In honor of her, anyone who lists on here something from HER list, or mine, will be entered to win a suprise pack full of Feminine pampering goodness from me! This is an “instant Giveaway” and I’ll draw the winner in one hour, at 4 Pm EST

WINNER:Congratulations DEBBIE! You win a wonderful prize pack!
Shall I tell you whats in it? Some yummy bath stuff, a candle, something to read, a few small surprises, and a nice little silver bullet vibrator. *grin* Everyone should have one of those!

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21 Comments

  1. Debbie E

    Nina, that sure gives you a boost to read your post. I’m always so hard on myself trying to be the perfect everything – Mom, Wife, Counselor, nurse when they need that, etc. My lot in life feels never ending and sometimes I feel like I never do anything up to my par simply because I divide myself too thin. Everybody wants something.

    I am also raising 2 daughters 17 & 14 and I will have to print your post because my youngest just said to me yesterday – about her period and how she is flowing more and more and why did this have to happen to her and yadda, yadda. This reminds me of why it is exciting to be a woman.

    I’m not complaining, don’t get me wrong and I realise there are alot of women in harder situations than mine – being a single parent definitely would be harder. I am married 27 years in July.

    Thanks for the shot in the arm and the pat on the back. It feels great! I will add you to my favorites.

  4. Debbie E

    One of the items on Nina’s List is:

    When I was a little girl I wanted to be a ballerina but I settled for disco queen instead. I also love to dance

    I love to dance as well. :great:

  6. Linda

    One of Sasha’s Items:
    Family: Italian Mother, Irish Father. (Yes, I have a bit of a temper.)
    Same here Sasha. I am a little more though. I am Italian, Irish, Scott, German, Frech, Portuguese and %5 Indian. Ok I am a white mutt *G*

    I love Sasha’s books I highly recommend any of her reads to those who are here and new. Go out to your nearest book store and pick up Sasha’s books. Pure Sex was *HOT*

    Hugssss
    Linda.H.

  7. Debbie E

    Sasha, there are so many things I love about you that I could go on and on and embarass you and me but I picked this as soon as I read it.

    Underdog movies always make me cheer, and sometimes cry. Yes, I’m a sap.

    We are the same in this choice!

  8. Sasha

    I even went to see ROcky Balboa the other day. LOl Yup. I liked it! How can you not go see it? I grew up watching Rocky movies, plus I love boxing, and -from what I’ve seen- Sly is pretty awesome as a person too.

  10. Linda

    WoW this was a very good topic to read. I enjoyed reading it. I love lazygeisha’s site. Added her to my fav’s.

    Ooo I have not seen that movie yet Sasha I also grew up on watching Rocky movies love his movies.

    Hugssss
    Linda.H.

  14. S. Desires

    Nina, you are, as always, a gem. Wonderful essay, gorgeous!

    And Sexy Sasha, your site looks positively delicious!! I love, love, love it!!

    I would’ve come out to play, but I’ve been chained up in my sons room organizing and doing other monotonous parental chores! Boo Hiss! 😥

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  20. badinfluencegirl

    even more than al of that, i’ve really noticed in myself that the more i embrace my feminine side the more of my sex drive that i find… and as a woman who basically didn’t have one for years on end that’s a very big deal.

    and ladies? knowing how to swing a sledgehammer doesn’t prevent you from being a lady … heck last week i snaked a septic and didn’t wreck my manicure

    go for girly!

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