Pleasure button

Butt’s don’t just look sexy, they are sexy! Anal sex used to be the big Taboo, only gay men, or bad girls did it and enjoyed it. Not true anymore. Personally, I think that like many things, it’s always been more popular than people knew, but the age of the internet and information overload has made it more acceptable.
As an author of erotic fiction, I use anal sex in stories not just to up the edge factor at times, but too bring characters closer together. For women, letting men in the back door is often a very intimate thing. It’s a trust thing, because if not done right, there can be a lot of pain, and even damage done.
Unfortunately, in erotic fiction anal sex has sort of become a cliche. It’s not common for female characters to be virgins anymore, so it seems to me that being an anal virgin has become the next best thing. Personally, I like female characters who are eager to explore and don’t need to be coached into it, but maybe thats just me?
Moving on…
I’ve also written some male/male scenes that include anal sex. One was with a gay couple (secondary storyline in Wicked) and one was with a menage story (One Weekend) The act of anal sex between straight men is often misunderstood. People think just because a guy enjoys anal sex, or even oral sex, with another man, that he’s gay, even if he won’t admit it. But that’s not always true. The best way I’ve sheen it explained was in a 2008 article in the Village Voice when therapist Joe Kort was quoted saying “When these straight men have sex with other men, it is not about an attraction to the other man—it is about an attraction to the sex act. When asked about what they enjoy, it is never the actual man, but instead his body parts, the sexual behavior they engage in.”
I knew when I was putting the two men together in One Weekend that some readers might not like it, but I had to do it. I had to follow the characters lead, and they were two very hot, sexually open and adventurous men, and let me just say, the scene was super hot too, and I will be revisiting those characters again.
Anal sex is not just for male/male encounters though, and it’s also not just for women. Another way to add a little edge to some sex play is by using your hands. Teasing touches around the back door while engaged in oral sex can be very hot. If the person is open to it, take a bit further with a little penetration. Be sure to use lube, and ladies, if you have long fingernails, be extra gentle. If you do penetrate, then do a little search for the prostate gland. You’ll know when you find it, as it’s basically the male G-spot. It’s a small, chestnut-sized bump maybe 2 inches in. Less than a fingers-length, which works good. Massage that little bump, and prepare to watch your man come so hard his knees will shake. *g*
When exploring the back door, just always remember to be safe and clean. Wash before, use plenty of lube (water-based is best), and take your time exploring each other.