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Both Sides of the story.

A while back I discovered some non-writer blogs that I’ve become hooked on. Blogs that sometimes make me feel like a voyuer, not because of the erotic content, but because of the emotional. And, nosy writer that I am, I love it. 😉

According to Amber is the “…idle musings, occasionally erotic, of a wife passionately in love with her husband.” Amber and her husband are in a DD relationship, (a variety of D/s) and her posts often give great insight the sexual side of things. BUT, they also give me a deep view into a relationship full of love, and open acceptance of each other. Something I hope someday to find myself.

Right now, Amber’s blog has a great post on what truly being a Submissive is about, and her husband Dan’s bloghas some great posts onthe other side of things. The Dominants view. He started on Monday with “The New Dom Blues” so scroll down and start there for an interesting, and entertaining, education in D/s living.

It’s weird…I’ve never ever thought I would even consider being in a 24/7 D/s relationship….but these two make it seem appealing. (Ofcourse, I’d need to be in a relationship first! lol) What do you think? IF you had the right partner…a partner you loved, and trusted, and they came to you and said they wanted to explore this area of things…would you give it a try, or say “No way, Baby!” ?

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22 Comments

  1. Cheyenne McCray

    Hey, Sasha.

    I write BDSM, and have learned a lot about it in the process. I don’t practice it, but I’ve had D/s who live the lifestyle comment that they thought from my writing I must have experience in it. LOL.

    But aside from that, I couldn’t do a 24/7 because my personality is too strong–I hate to be told what to do 😀 . But in the bedroom…that can be fun play.

    I respect choice and the fact that people should be able to live the lifestyle they choose to. The 24/7 just doesn’t appeal to me personally.

    Chey

  2. Jordan

    I think there’s a common fantasy for both men and women of having someone take care of you and take charge so you don’t have to. It sounds like this couple have worked the D/s roles into their lives seamlessly. Like Chey said, more power to them.

  3. Dianna

    🙁 this is a game to Dan and Amber, what if she decides not to play and he still wants too. What about when you are tired from housework and kids, your ovulating and there is no protection, he wants it, he’s stronger, you roll over and stop fighting it. Do you tell the child how he came to be?

  5. Sasha

    Chey~ I’ve written a couple of short stories that deal with D/s as well and agree with the "fun to play" attitude. Not sure I could ever do 24/7 myself, but reading their blogs makes it seem almost appealing. Although I think it’s the Closeness and the communication that they share that appeals to me more than anything. I see so many couples that LOOK perfect together, but then the guy sits at my bar and bitchs about her, or the girl comes in one night without him, and leaves with someone else. I personally know I don’t have a high opinion of relationships and marriage, (strange huh?), and these two make me think…"hey…there are people out there that can make anything work. And it’s because they love each other. "

  6. Sasha

    Jordan~ I believe you’re right. It’s a common fantasy, that’s why so many people like the stories that deal with it.

    Dianna~ I disagree…it’s NOT a game to them. I’ve been reading their blogs for a bit over a month now, and I think they have a very good handle on what they’re doing. Even though Dan is the one in charge, it’s obvious he would never hurt Amber (well, in way that REALLY hurt her) . They believe hugely in commmunication and I think that makes what they do WORK.

    Sylvia~ I think being both could fun…with the right toy…uh… I mean guy. 😛

    There was a super HOT guy in the pub last night, young , military, a touch arrogant…I tell you, the thought of getting him on his knees and saying "Yes, Mistress" had it’s appeal. :blush:

  7. Sasha

    Chey~ I forgot to mention that I loved Erotic Weekend. A great stroy that showed the fun aspect that I like…well ok..maybe "fun" is the wrong word…but you knwo what I mean. 😀

  8. Emily

    All right, I already followed your link to Submissive Reflections and now you got me hooked on Amber and Dan.

    While I don’t think I could ever do it as a lifestyle choice (playing – maybe) the amount of love and communication between the couples is overwhelming!!

    I admit that after reading "true" accounts, I read BDSM fiction differently now, too.
    🙂

  9. Tina

    I am married and a 24/7 submissive slave to my husband who is also my Master and we have 3 sons. It is possible depends on the couple. We have been in this DD/D/s relantionship since 2001. I am a very happy woman, mother, wife, sub slave.

  12. Shayne

    ~smile~
    It amazes me that everyone views the idea of a D/s relationship different than any other relationship… the same rules apply
    -honesty
    -communication
    -commitment

    on what ever level a relationship works… its WORK. Its not the relationship thats different… only the expression of the relationship

  13. Sasha

    Shayne~ I agree. Maybe I’m just a bit jaded or cynical because of what I see working behind the bar, but it almost seems to me that people in a d/s realationship, or any type of "alternative" one are MORE honest and open that the average couple. That makes it even more appealing to me than just the lustful aspects of it.

  14. Tina

    No I am not trying to make you jealous I am just stating that it can work 24/7 even when children are part of the family. It has be done creatively of course but it can be done. This is a wonderful lifestyle but it takes a great deal of work and thought with onesself and their partner to make it so. It is not a game although there are ones who play it for that I am sure but as a reader and a person who just started reading your blog I am glad to see your open minded and look at things the way you do. You have earned me as a new reader in all ways 🙂

  21. Shayne

    a D/s relationship is not normal, meaning that it is not the NORM or average type of relationship…. there for the majority of people are not into BDSM. This does not make the D/s Relationship any less significant than a "normal" vanilla relationship, only different.

    and just cause Sasha has found one that really works, don’t think that ALL D/s relationships are so lucky, they have about the same failure rate as nilla ones… cause after all we are only just people!

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