Okay, Sorry I’ve been pretty much MIA for a while. I finished WICKED and SEXY DEVILS, and went back to work ~ and during it all I had a hellish head cold and the flu. 😥
But, I also managed to go to my very first Kink event. As in, it was like a writers confernce but it was BDSM focused. 🙂 I took seminars on military scenes, BDSM and the law, and my fave, Degrees of Power, Degrees of Freedom. It was awesome stuff.
I admit it, I was a bit nervous to go, especially by myself, but I’m brave. And it was well worth it. I met some amazingly open and helpful people. I learned a lot, and saw a lot! Yup, there was a play party on Sat and Sunday night, I went to the one on Sat night and got my first real good look at a Dungeon full of people doing their thing. (Not having sex, but things like spanking, flogging, ropes, or sensation play.)
And yes, I dipped my toe in too. *blush* Some people might say I jumped in, but I don’t think of it that way. LOL All I did was let someone tie me up. I really wanted to experience the whole rope Shibari thing! And I had met the couple I let do it before, so I felt safe.
It was… interesting. I haven’t really had a lot of time to go over it in my mind yet.. but I do know I learned one thing about my own views of D/s and such that weekend. For Me, it’s all about the sexual aspect of things. Which makes sense when you read my stories, the D/s play is all centered around bedroom antics/lust/desires and needs. But clearly, that is not all there is to BDSM, and it’s not that way for everyone.
I’ll write more about this stuff later, like I said, I haven’t really had a chance to think about all I saw/learned when I was there because of everything else going on. But I had to at least tell you all that I did it. I finally got to be tied up!! 😈
It sounds fabulous!
Congrats on getting past your nervousness and enjoying the conference/weekend.
I hope you’re feeling better! 😀
wow sounds like u had a great time n blast too. would u do it again if u got the chance to? :great:
Janet. Not sure. LOl It was good experience for sure, to help with my writing and such. But I think the only way I’d get really into it is if I found a man like Karl – the hero in my WIP who is a Dom. :inlove:
Hehe. Man you are my hero and brave to boot! :great:
Woo hoo Sasha!
It is an exciting experience. Here in Seattle people do have sex at the club right out in the open. I know a lot of clubs don’t allow that.
I think it is an amazing energy to add to public D/s play. For me too, BDSM is all about sex.
Hugs and Kisses,
Lacy
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Hey Lacy,
I think because this wasn’t a CLUB. IT was in a hotel Conference room. 🙂 Think of about 3/4 the size of the room where the RWA signign was in. Half of it was Dungeon, half was seating to watch and eat and drink.
There are no clubs in my city. And I think the hotel made the “no sex’ rule since it was sort of a swanky hotel. LOL