When do you resign yourself to not finding what you want? I’m not just talking abotu a man, or a relationship here, but about anything and everything.
I tend to be a person who see’s what I want, and I go after it. And I usually get it…but what happens when you get it, and find out it’s not enough? It’s not filling that hole inside you that you thought it would. What if you find the perfect man, only to figure out you don’t want him, at least not all the time. What about if you finally get your dream job, only to discover that it’s just another job? What about if you start to lose wieght only to start sabatoging yourself, because if you finally do lose that weight, you lose that thing you blame everything else on?
Am I the only one who feels this way sometimes? I admit it, there are times when I feel a little lost. Times when I wonder why I am here. Yes, here on earth. I do believe we all have a reason for being here – a lesson to learn, or to teach….but will we ever know what that lesson is?
*smiles* I just realized that this post could come across as depressed, but it’s not meant to be. I’m not depressed at all…lol… just contemplative. Maybe it’s the New Year, maybe it’s that I’m finally realizing my age…maybe it’s just that I’ve had too much caffiene? Anyway, just thought I’d share some thoughts.
You are not alone. :light:
Heh. Glad to know I’m not the only person who gets contemplative like that. 🙂
Here’s the thing: Nothing is truly certain in life except death. Sure, what you’re aiming to get might not be as great as you thought, but how are you going to know if you don’t try?
(That being said, if you’d need to give something up in order to get that, it may not be a great idea. Like dumping the hubby for the pool boy, or your good job for something that might be better. Green grass, other side, and all that. :P)
Nope. You’re not alone on that one.
From what I’ve seen, happiness and contentment comes from inside and is completely independent of outside things or people. (Not that I succeed at achieving it well even if I know this, but I know where to look, and that helps a little.)
Nice stuff in the form of things and good jobs and relationships with people that work are icing on the cake.
Thanks Jordan! That’s wonderful to know. :great:
Nonny, Hmmm dumping the hubby for the pool boy? I think I’d dump him for a pool. LOL Well, okay I can joke about that becasue I don’t have a hubby. Yes, I think you have a great point! It’s not where you go that matters as much as how you get there.
Hi Jean, I get that it comes from within, but thats sort of what I’m talking about. WHen you have everything material you could want, and you still feel – not unhappy- but restless, or somehow lacking, how do you find what it is that is lacking??
You keep trying and then learn from the trying. See everything as a learning experience.
Agree with Kris.
Everything here is a learning experience. And we’re here to learn.
And finding out about the things you don’t really want is part of that.
Just keep living, hon. 😉
Sasha, your post totally reflects my mood today and, uh, I haven’t had any caffeine yet, LOL. 😆
You’re not alone! Thing is, our goals change through life as we grow, and we need to accept that. I believe that’s what we’re here for, to experience as much as we can, to make the most of every moment, to be happy and share that with others, bringing them smiles too. Sending hugs!
I am one the believes that your heart will never be complete..While being here on earth there will never be anything that will fully complete us because after all we are-Heavenly Creatures having an Earthbound experience.
My purpose is not so much to do a specific thing, but to revel in what I can do for others in general….
callie
Depends on my mood what I think. That sounds fickle but true. When dealing with my 2 teenage daughters, I keep reminding them that they only go through Grade 12 once in their life so find something to enjoy about it and the same with my grade 8 daughter.
When we get frazzled or stressed about something – I try to breath deep and remember next month I won’t remember this frustration.
I learned this 14 years ago when I was at the Pediatrician’s office complaining that my daughter wouldn’t use the toilet and I said my goodness she won’t be able to go to school unless she does.
He said when she’s 16 you won’t even think about this and that settled everything for me. It’s true. Don’t fret for nothing.
:great:
:angel:My fiance recently had a heart attack and wrecked his semi, I have to tell you that I have always spoken to him about my feelings on this same subject and he’d always look at me like I’d lost my mind! I have to tell you that now he’s been wondering the same thing since the Truck and trailer stayed upright off road and over ditch and land for 400 feet and he had no broken bones, sprains or internal injuries. He actually hit the sterng wheel so hard it restarted his heart. Then to top it all off when he came home Mr cynical had benefits thrown for him by some friends and has to date received over $5000.00
Now that’s his food for thought what would it take for you?
I often wonder stuff like this. So far I haven’t figured out any answer 🙂
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