I’m not getting interest in my ad on the internet. Well, that’s not completely true . . . Apparently I have 10 emails waiting for me on one of the sites I placed an ad on, but I can’t get into those emails until I pay a fee. A $29/month fee. So I haven’t checked my mail on there yet. :rolleyes:
The other site I put an ad on is getting a few responses in the dating and the relationship section…from men that are 10 years older than me, and I just can’t bring myself to be interested in them. I know the reason for this is sex. I had a lover a while ago that was 10 years older than me, and while he was adventurous and open and affectionate. He wasn’t energetic enough. I know sex and stamina aren’t everything in a relationship, but to me…it’s a huge part of one.
Thoughts like these make me wonder what it is I’m really searching for. Sex…or love?
Being the greedy girl that I am I would love to have both…to have it ALL. But what if I have to choose? Which one is more important to me at this point in my life?
I admit it…I’m leaning towards sex. I found this article tonite, and the following quote reminded me of a discussion we had on here last week about MANSPEAK.
“Although years of chauvinism have caused virtually everyone to believe that a woman who engages in casual sex is somewhat of a “loose” girl, the majority of us who have engaged in these “no strings attached” scenarios know otherwise.”
Reading men’s magazines and articles can be very enlightening at times. 😛
By the way, if you read the whole article, Man 1 did some of the things he shouldn’t have if all he wanted was sex. So I think this article may have some merit to it. 😎
Todays GYPSY HEART excerpt.
Sable pushed open the door to her tiny apartment and dragged herself inside. God, what a night!
Jake and Gage had played pool until the bar was cleaned up and everyone else had gone home, including Katie. They were still playing when Sable had gone into the back office to lock up the money and shut down the computers.
She’d taken a few minutes to fluff her hair and check her make-up before going back out to join them, only to find Gage gone, and Jake alone.
She knew he could see her disappointment but he didn’t say anything, and she refused to ask. They were silent while she locked the doors. With a final goodnight, she’d climbed on her mountain bike and used the ten-block ride home to burn off her excess energy.
Dropping her satchel in the entryway, she went straight to the bathroom and pushed aside the shower curtain. With a quick twist on each handle, the water pummeled the empty tub. Steam filled the small room while she shed her work clothes, stepped under the spray and let out a low moan of satisfaction as the hot water hit her between the shoulder blades.
Eyes closed, she tilted her head back and let the water flatten her curls to her head before streaming down her body. The shower filled with the smell of the stale smoke releasing from her hair. Without opening her eyes, she reached for the shampoo and lathered up. Soon the air was fresh and fruity and she let her mind wander as she went about her routine.
Gage consumed her thoughts and tendrils of anger heated her blood. She shouldn’t care that some sexy stranger didn’t have the decency to say goodnight. Shoving her head under the spray, she rinsed away the shampoo before filling her palms with conditioner and covering her hair in the creamy lotion. She left it in to soak and ran a sudsy sponge over her body.
Languorous pleasure edged past the anger and her nipples hardened. The same way they had when Gage had walked into the pub. Her body seemed to wake up around him, as if it recognized him. Never before had a man affected her so strongly, so immediately.
Never before had a man walked away from her after she’d offered up an invitation, no matter how subtle.
She turned in the shower so the brusque jets of water landed directly on her chest. She ran her hands over her breast and groaned at the feelings quickening her pulse. While she didn’t believe in casual sex, she did believe in casual relationships based on sex. And it had been far too long since she’d enjoyed one.
The arousal flowing through her at the thought of getting naked with Gage made her wonder how his hands would feel skimming over her skin. Would he be rough? Or gentle? Would he be firm and passionate, or slow and sensuous?
Imagining it was his hands cupping her breasts she tweaked her nipples and let her eyes slide closed. She leaned against the tile wall and slipped her other hand between her thighs. Teasing herself, she slid a finger over lips plump with arousal and felt the thick wetness there. Her fingertip brushed against her hard button and her breath caught.
Knees weakening, she focused on that sensitive nub of flesh. Flicking her finger back and forth, she forgot about the way the night had ended and concentrated on the pleasure gathering low in her belly.
The image of him bent over the pool table flashed through her mind, morphing into one of him bent over her, splayed out on the pool table. His dark eyes gleaming with wicked delight as he watched her please herself. The thought of doing it for him, of him watching her, pushed her over the edge. She pressed the palm of her hand against her core and rocked her body until her orgasm faded.
Hands hanging limply by her sides, she remembered her subtlety earlier that night, and made a promise it wouldn’t happen again. She was twenty-nine year old woman who went after what she wanted in life. And right now, she wanted Gage.
But older men can be sweet, attentive and mature. And there’s always Viagra!!! :hehe:
I’m with Suzanne on this one. Go for quality not quantity. :blush:
Okay, here’s another thing. I didn’t like the way he kissed. There was alot of things that weren’t GREAT about him, but he was nice, and affectionate and caring when I needed someone like that.
ANd we’re still friends, but that’s all it will ever be. For me, I want someone that makes my heart beat faster and my lips smile wihtout my being aware of it.
I know I know, my friends all tell me I’m asking for too much. So if I am going to settle for another lover, I want this one to be able to rock my world…in the bedroom at least.
In case you haven’t figured it out…I don’t really know what I want. I just know that at times I don’t want to be alone. :doze:
:doze:I think there a lot of guys out there that will tell a girl all they are looking for is casual, but they really want to be loved. My son is 29 and pratically begged me to stay longer when I was there, he loves having someone to come home too. One of my buds took his new girlfriend on a work trip with him, it is a good way to spend a lot of time with someone, you live together for a few weeks and then if it doesn’t click, there isn’t the ackwardness of having to move back out. I can’t wait for him to get back to fill me in on how it went. :plain:
Oh and not wanting to be alone when you are alone is better then wanting to be alone when you are with someone…
I agree with Dianna’s comment about being alone and would also add there is nothing worse than being lonely when you are in a relationship with someone… I spent too long there in the past. Sigh. But what I really came to say is that I was where you are now, a few years ago, (after I eventually left the guy I was lonely with 😉 and it was when I stopped looking for love/a lover that it really happened for me. It’s hard I know, but if you believe in fate (and I think you do) you know you will meet the right people at the right time in your life. All fingers and toes crossed that will be very soon and in the meantime you have your fabulous fantasy men you create in your work 😉
Okay, you’ve definitely run across the WRONG older men!!! But Saskia is right. The one I ended up with was one I wasn’t even looking for. And I can’t imagine not having him in my life.
Sasha, I understand where you’re coming from about the ‘relationship’ thing. Forever single, I want someone when I’m lonely–but think I’d suffocate with them around all the time (proving I’ve never found the RIGHT someone).
However, must agree with Suzanne & Jordan. My first thought was also ‘viagra!’. :rolleyes:
And honey, a man who doesn’t kiss right can be TAUGHT to do so. Whether he’s older or not, I think being valued & treasured by someone is very important.
I thinkyou hit it right onthe head when you say you haven;t foung the RIGHT someone. I love my alone time. I love living alone, I get very anti-social at times. But, There are also times when I wish I had someone to love, or even to cuddle.
It’s the RIGHT someone that I’m waiting for…and age won;t make a difference when I do find him. As for NOT looking. I was never interested in a relationship until about three years ago…and that whole first 32 years of my life I never met someone when I wasn’t looking, so I’m not sure I beleive that really wokrs. In my case anyway, cuz we all know I’m special. 😛
To be completely honest…I’ve always had faith the right guy would come along…now..I’m losing faith. Slowly but surely. But I still do beleive I being single is better than settling for something less than what you want.
AM I making ANY sense?? :crazy:
I am also a loner, I enjoy my own company very much, but when I am away from my wife, I am sad and depressed, she is the only person I can’t stand to be away from! Don’t settle a relationship is too important NOT to get what you want. Untill you find the right guy, just relax and go with the flow, even the casual relationships add to your expirences.
Don’t let anyone EVER talk you into settling for less than what you want. Someone almost convinced me at one time that what I was looking for wasn’t ‘realistic’. After I left him (wg), I met a man who was exactly what I was looking for. 😀