Abuse – the mistreatment of another person with physical or mental cruelty, usually on a regular basis and against their will.
Age Play – between adults involves adopting different roles to express a fetish based on age.
Anal Sex or Anal Play – any sexual or fetish practice that centers on the anus.
Anal Training – is designed to allow the anus to accomodate larger objects more easily.
Animal Play – is consensual role-playing where one or more of the participants adopts the role of an animal, such as a pony or a puppy. (Do not confuse this with bestiality)
Asphyxiation – is the unconsiousness and ultimately death which happens when the supply of oxygen to the brain is cut off.
Auto-Erotic Strangulation – occurs when people try to enhance their sexual experience by deliberately choking themselves or letting others do it to them.
BDSM – an all-inclusive term to bring together the distinct but related activities of Bondage and Discipline (BD), Dominance and Submission (D/s), and Sado-Masochism (SM).
Bestiality – is sexual intercourse or other sexually motivated activity between a person and an animal.
Blindfolds – are devices which block vision and are used in BDSM play to create feelings of helplesness and disorientation.
Bloodsports – are BDSM activities which break the skin and result in blood being shed.
Body Fluid Monogamy – involves both partners in a steady relationship deciding to share body fluids only with each other to avoid the risks of AIDS and other sexually transmitted diseases.
Body Modification – is an inclusive term covering piercing, tattooing, and other practices which decorate or change the body for erotic or fetish purposes.
Bondage – involves being rendered helpless by restraints.
Boot Boy – is the name given to a submissive (usually gay) male who has a fetish for leather boots worn by dominants.
Bottom – is the term used in BDSM to describe a person who receives pain or sensation.
Boundaries – are also called ‘limits’. These are personal limits that people don’t wish, or aren’t prepared, to cross.
Boy – is a term sometimes used for male submissives.
Brat – describes a submissive or bottom who loves to resist and test the patience of the ‘tops’ or ‘dominants’.
Breast Bondage – erotic play which involves binding the breasts tightly.
Breath control – usually involves the dominant partner controlling the breathing of the submissive.
Branding – is burning the skin with heated metal to produce scarification in a design or pattern.
Bullwhips – one of the most dramatic implements available for BDSM play.
Butt-Plugs — often made from jelly or soft rubber, these are used for anal training or play. Butt plugs are inserted into the anus and stretch the tight ring of anal muscle (the sphincter).
Candle Play (Wax Play or Wax Torture) – play that involves dripping hot candlewax onto the skin of the submissive. Plain white paraffin candles are best, while coloured or beeswax candles are more likely to burn. Generally soft candles have a lower melting point and are safer.
Canes – come in a variety of lengths and thicknesses and are traditionally made of rattan.
Cat ‘o’ nine tails – these were originally used by the British Navy to flog uppity sailors, and was a leather whip with nine thongs which were sometimes weighted with lead to produce a devastating punishment that could strip the skin off right down to the bone.
Catharsis – is the purging of emotions or tension.
Clamps – are mechanical devices that come in various shapes and sizes but are all designed to cause pain through pinching or squeezing. They can include nipple clamps, crocodile clips or even the humble clothes-pin. Weights are sometimes added to increase the intensity of the pain.
Cock and Ball Torture (CBT) – is the ‘torture’ or involvement in painful erotic play of the male genitalia (cock and balls).
Cockrings – are, as the name suggests, rings that go around the cock. Usually they go around the base of it, behind the balls.
Collar – a collar used in BDSM is in physical appearance often like a dog-collar, made of leather, metal, or chain, and worn around the neck.
Collaring – usually means the formalizing of a relationship between a dominant and submissive. Ceremony of the Roses is the formal collaring ceremony.
Contract – is an agreement which formally sets out the roles, responsibilities and limits of a Domination/submission relationship, sometimes called a slave or ownership contract.
Counting Strokes – is a ritualized counting of the strokes of a caning, with the recipient sometimes being required to thank the dominant after each stroke. If the submissive miscounts a stroke or remains silent, then the stroke may be repeated.
Cross-Dressing – dressing in the clothes of the opposite gender, and is a reasonably common fetish.
Cruxifiction – as practised in BDSM usually refers to a kind of bondage where the submissive is tied to a cross. Care needs to be taken to make sure that the weight is supported evenly and that the submissive can breathe properly.
Cutting – generally means slicing the skin with a sharp implement (knife or scalpel) so that blood is shed.
Cuffs – can be made out of leather, cloth or metal and are designed to restrain the wrists or ankles.
Cybersex (online sex, virtual sex, virtual scening) – most commonly involves two or more people, who are communicating in real-time via their computers, constructing a shared sexual fantasy and describing to each other how they feel and what they are ‘doing’. A bit like an inter-active erotic story.
Dental Dams – are most commonly just a latex barrier used for cunnilingus or annilingus to prevent the transmission of disease.
Deviant – is the name for someone who diverges from the accepted standards, usually of sexual morality, is called a ‘deviant’.
Discipline – in the BDSM context means training the submissive to obey rules or a code of behavior; using punishment to correct disobedience.
Dominance – is the exercise of power or influence over others. It can simply be role-play, where one partner is consensually empowered to ‘dominate’ while the other adopts the part of the submissive for the limited purpose of sexual games, or it can reflect deep-seated personality traits which influence life-style choices. Although the words ‘Dominant’ and its contraction, ‘Dom’ can refer to either gender they are most commonly reserved for men while a female dominant would be called a ‘Domme’, ‘Domina’, or ‘Dominatrix’.
Dominant – (or Dom) can, strictly speaking, be used in a BDSM context for either gender to describe a person who enjoys exercising power and control over others.
Dominatrix – (or Domme or Domina) are the terms most often used in a BDSM context to describe a female who enjoys exercising power and control over others.
D/s – is the abbreviation for domination and submission. You will commonly find the same convention used in BDSM internet chatrooms, where the Doms nicknames will start with an uppercase letter and the submissives will use the lowercase.
D/s Relationship – describes an ongoing relationship where each partner has a recognized role, one being dominant while the other is submissive. This structured way of relating to each other can apply either just in their sex-life or more pervasively to some or all other aspects of their daily lifestyle.
Edge Play – is a term used for activities that carry a degree of risk which is perceived to be high, or play which pushes the submissive’s limits ‘to the edge’.
Electrical Torture (Electro Play) – involves the use of electrical current, often applied to breasts of genitalia, in BDSM play sessions.
Emotional Triggers – are events, words, situations that produce a strong emotional reaction in particular indiviiduals and for that reason may be either deliberately avoided or used in play.
Endorphins – are natural substances created by the body which reduce pain and can create a feeling of well-being and euphoria which is often called an ‘endorphin high’.
Enema – is a device used to inject fluid into the anus to flush the lower intestines. Can be used as part of D/s or sexual play for humiliation, to cleanse before other anal play.
English – is a code word for corporal punishment, stemming from the supposed devotion of the English to anything that smacks of a good spanking.
Exhibitionists – are people who love drawing attention to themselves. The term has a specific use in psychiatry, where it describes a compulsion to exhibit ones genitals in public.
Fetish – any sexual fixation upon an activity or object which often (but certainly not always) has its roots in some powerful experience or image from childhood.
Fire and Ice – involves BDSM play using heat and cold, often candle wax for heat (the fire) and ice cubes (the ice) applied to the bare skin, especially the nipples or genital area.
Fisting – describes the insertion of the whole hand into the anus (anal fisting) or the vagina (vaginal fisting).
Flogger – is a multi-thonged whip, often made out of deerskin, elk, suede, or other pliable leathers.
Flying – a transcendental endorphin-induced state of bliss reported by some submissives during BDSM play/scening.
Foot Fetish – a fairly common fetish, in which the foot (or shoes) are a trigger for sexual desire.
Forced Sex – a consensual fantasy role-play where the dom pretends to force a sexual activity upon the submissive.
French (French Kissing) – any kissing that involves open mouths, tongues, and swapping spit.
Gags – devices inserted into or covering the mouth to muffle sound or create feelings of helplessness.
Gates of Hell – A linked series of rings, usually metal, of diminishing size which are fitted around the cock and held in place by a leather strap around the balls. Initially fitted to a flaccid cock, the device grips ever more tightly as the unfortunate victim becomes aroused and his cock becomes erect.
Gender Orientation – identification with a particular gender.
Gender Play – is dressing up or taking the role of the other sex during play.
German – a ‘code-word’ for sado-masochism.
Golden Shower – urinating on your partner or having them urinate on you.
Greek – a ‘code-word’ for anal sex. Sometimes also used specifically for homosexual anal sex.
Handcuffs – metal restraints which lock around the wrists.
Head Games – describes psychological manipulation by the dominant intended to intensify the erotic or emotional response of the submissive through heightened anticipation and fear.
Hoods – cover the head and may be made from a variety of materials such as leather, cotton, latex, or rubber depending on your tastes. They are used to de-personalise and disorient or more benignly in BDSM as scary props for the dom or to provide an anonymity for dominant or submissive which can be quite liberating.
Humiliation – involves making someone feel ashamed or foolish by injuring their dignity and self-respect, especially publically. Some enjoy it in certain kinds of role-play or relationships. Mental domination exercised through humiliation or praise can be positive or destructive, depending on who is involved, their background, the intention behind the humiliation, and how it is carried out.
Infantilism – is role-play involving infant-like behavior such as wearing diapers, nursing, etc. An Infantilist is a person who sometimes likes to pretend that he or she is a baby/toddler. This can include the urge to be pampered, snuggling close by a maternal lover’s side, being helpless once again in mommy’s arms or sometimes even dressing as a baby.
Japanese bondage (oriental bondage) – is an elaborate, and to some beautiful, rope bondage developed in the Orient where it was originally used as a torture technique. It combines the usual bondage-effect of helplessness with aesthetic beauty and in some cases an intense erotic massage (caused by the pressure of the ropes and knots) that’s similar to acupressure techniques and traditional Japanese shiatsu massage.
Kajira – a Kajira is a gorean female slavegirl, not to be confused with a Kajirus who is her male counterpart or a Kajuralia, which is a festival in which gorean slaves trade places with their masters and have the freedom to play tricks on free persons. All of these terms come from the fantasy world of Gor (the counter-earth) created in the novels of John Norman.
Katherine Wheel – is a large, vertically mounted wheel. The submissive is bound securely to the wheel, after which it can be rotated to give easy access to all areas of the ‘victims’ body for pleasing or teasing.
Knifeplay – doesn’t necessarily involve cutting although it might.
Latex – is a clinging, shiny fabric and is the subject of a significant fetish with many devotees.
Leather – is one of the most basic and widely-known fetishes in the BDSM scene. Leather skirts, leather chaps, leather harnesses, leather cuffs, leather paddles, the list is endless.
Lifestyler – is a term used to describe a person who lives a lifestyle which supports their bdsm inclinations. Sometimes a person who hangs out a lot at BDSM clubs or parties will call himself a ‘lifestyler’ but others only consider themselves ‘lifestylers’ if they ‘stay in role’ as dominant or submissive, master or slave, not just for a night out at a club but full-time, 24-hours a day, seven days a week (or 24/7 as its often called ).
Limits – are the boundaries of BDSM activities that we are unwilling to cross, things we don’t want to do and places we don’t want to go.
Live-In Slave/Submissive – is a ‘lifestyle’ submissive or slave who lives with, and serves, a master or mistress on a full-time asis.
Marking – marks left on a submissive’s body as a result or punishment, for example whipping or caning. Sometimes viwed by submissives a bade of pride but can also be a major embarrasment if unwanted.
Masochist – someone who derives pleasure, especially sexual pleasure, from pain or humiliation. The word comes from the name of Leopold von Sacher-Masoch (1839-95) the Austrian writer (and masochist) who described what he enjoyed so well in his novel, “Venus in Furs”.
Master – the Oxford English Dictionary describes a ‘master’ as ‘a person who has dominance over others’ or ‘a skilled practitioner of a particular art’. Those two concepts, dominance and skill, are brought together in the use of the word ‘Master’ in a bdsm context. The title may sometimes be used within a D/s relationship as a loving tribute by a submissive to the skill of her partner or it may define a relationship in which the submissive sees herself as a ‘slave’ who is owned by her ‘master’. Essentially though the word describes how someone else regards you, not how you regard yourself.
Menthol Play – is a form of erotic play in which menthol products are used on sensitive areas of the body to produce intense stimulation. Cough drops or toothpaste containing menthol can be used to spice up fellatio (cock-sucking) or cunnilingus (pussy-licking). Arthritis creams and sprays (e.g. Ben Gay) which contain menthol can also be used to make male masturbation more intense, but are generally much too strong to be tolerated on the sensitive internal mucous membrane of the anus or vagina. This kind of play needs to be treated with care because it can also cause intense discomfort.
Mind Bondage – is a kind of bondage in which the submissive is restrained simply by the dominant describing to her how she is tied up or by telling her to stay in position. No ‘real’ bondage is involved.
Mind Play – is psychological manipulation by the dominant intended to intensify the erotic or emotional response of the submissive through heightened anticipation and fear. It may be good or bad, depending on the circumstances and motive. Also known as head games, head trips, or mind-fucking.
Mistress – a female dominant
Mommy – a dominant, usually but not always female, who adopts a maternal role when relating to a submissive.
Mummification – is a very tight and constricting kind of bondage in which the person is completely (or nearly so) wrapped in restrictive material such as bandages, cling-film, rubber or a special bag designed for this purpose.
Munch – a term used to describe informal meetings run by bdsm clubs and organisations in safe, social settings such as a group lunch or ‘munch’ at a public restaurant, where kinky people can make new acquaintances or socialize with old friends in a low-key, pressure-free “vanilla” setting.
Necrophilia – is sexual intercourse with, or attraction towards, corpses.
Negotiation – is the art of reaching a clear agreement with your partner about the sort of play-session or relationship you want and the things you will do together. Arguably one of the most important bdsm skills.
Nipple Clamps – may be purpose made or improvised from everyday things like clothes-pins or crocodile-clips and are applied, as the name suggests, to the nipples.
Nipple Torture – because nipples are so sensitive and erogenous they are a prime target for teasing and torment in a variety of ways, including the use of nipple clamps, hot wax, or whipping.
Nonconsensual – if the motto of good bdsm is ‘safe, sane, and consensual’ then it follows that any bdsm activity which is genuinely nonconsensual is to be avoided. The reality of nonconsensual action is that it is abuse and not bdsm.
Nostril Strap – most commonly favoured in Japanese BDSM, the nostril strap is made usually of bent wire with a string attached. The wire ends hook into the nostrils producing eye-watering pain if the string is pulled.
Novice – is someone new to bdsm who lacks experience
O (The Story of O) – was an influential novel about sado-masochism written by Pauline Reage in the 1950’s. It tells the story of ‘O’, a french woman who is taken by her lover Rene to a chateau called ‘Roissy’ on the edge of Paris where she is systematically subjugated and moulded into a willing slave through sexual assaults, regular whippings, and long hours in solitude.
OTK or Over-the-Knee – is a popular and well-known position for spanking, where the person being spanked lays face-down across the lap of the spanker.
Paddle (paddling) – a spanking implement intended to be used on the buttocks. Paddles are traditionally made of wood but variations include leather paddles, usually with a rigid spine made of steel or fibreglass, and wooden paddles with holes drilled in them to reduce wind resistance when the paddle is swung and produce a harder contact. Any relatively rigid, flat object such as a hairbrush or ping-pong paddle can also be used as a paddle.
Pain Slut – a ‘pain slut’ is a masochist who enjoys and seeks out pain for its own sake.
Pansexual – means not limited or inhibited in sexual choice by gender or activity; a sexuality that has many different forms, objects, and outlets. Often used to describe groups which embrace all gender and sexual orientations.
Pervert – is a person whose sexual behaviour is regarded as unacceptable or abnormal. Often used by self-appointed moralists to describe those whose odd sexual tastes differ from their own odd sexual tastes.
Piercing – involves pentrating the flesh, either temporarily or on a more permanent basis. In play-piercing, needles are used only for the duration of the play in different areas of the body. Permanent piercings, for decorative or erotic purposes, may be done in the nipple, tongue, nostril, eyebrow, ear, lips, scrotum, penis, the inner and outer labia, or the hood of the clitoris. Metal rings and studs are usually inserted into the piercings, and sometimes thin chains are attached to nipple or genital rings during BDSM play to ‘lead’ and control a submissive.
Pillory – is a set of stocks mounted on an upright piece of wood, which imprison the head and hands obliging the prisoner to stand bent over in an uncomfortable position.
Play – consensual bdsm activity which may or may not have an agreed sexual component. The sado-masochistic things two or more people do together in ‘play’ might range from a light spanking through erotic torture to pretty much anything else you can imagine. A ‘playroom’ is a safe and secure room specially set up for SM play, which might be equipped with restraints, mirrors, whips, paddles, whipping posts and benches, or whatever else you fancy. BDSM ‘play’ is also called a ‘scene’ or ‘sceneing’.
Playroom – is a safe and secure room specially set up for SM play, which might be equipped with restraints, mirrors, whips, paddles, whipping posts and benches, or whatever else you fancy.
Polyamorous – means “loving more than one”. The love may be sexual, emotional, spiritual, or any combination thereof, according to the desires and agreements of the people involved. “Polyamorous” is also used as a descriptive term for people who are open to more than one relationship even if they are not currently involved in more than one.
Pony-Play – is a distinct sub-culture within BDSM. A ponygirl (or ponyboy) engages in role-play involving assuming the role of a ‘pony’ and being ‘trained’ by a dominant. Typically the human ‘pony’ is required to wear a harness and reins while performing actions that a real pony would perform, such as running on a lunge line, pulling a cart, carrying a rider or being groomed, inspected and shown.
Position Training – is training a submissive to adopt a certain position on command or under certain circumstances. Some bdsm sub-cultures, for example the Goreans, are more into this than others and have quite elaborate requirements.
Power Exchange – is a term used to describe a submissive granting a dominant power over her. The degree of power granted may be very limited, absolute, or anywhere in between. This ‘power-exchange’ forms the basis of most short-term bdsm play sessions and longer term D/s relationships. The dominant, in accepting the power which is offered, should also accept responsibilities towards the submissive which will include not abusing that power.
PVC (Poly Vinyl Chloride) – is a thin, shiny plastic material often used for fetish clothes.
Pussy Torture – the female equivalent of ‘cock and ball’ torture. In this case clamping, whipping, or other ways of inflicting pain are focussed on the female genitalia.
Quirt – a flexible, leather riding crop favoured by cowboys in the comics I read when I was a tiny sadist.
Rimming – a slang expression for anilingus (anal-oral sex)
Role Play – adopting a different persona for the purpose of acting out sexual fantasies. Examples could be the stern schoolmaster and the naughty schoolgirl, the mistress and her slave, the torturer and his victim, doctor and nurse, priest and penitant, Batman and Robin, or whatever turns you on.
Sadist – a person who derives pleasure, especially sexual gratification, from inflicting pain, suffering or humiliation on others. The word comes from the name of Donatien Alphonse Francois, compte de Sade, known as the Marquis de Sade (1740 – 1814). He was the author of several sexually explicit works which explored the darker side of sexuality and for which he spent much of his life imprisoned.
Safewords (safe signals) – are pre-arranged words or signals that can be used by a submissive in BDSM play to slow down or stop the action.
Safe, Sane and Consensual – a phrase commonly used to encapsulate the best principles of bdsm activity. It must be safe; you must not put people at emotional or physical risk. It must be sane; bdsm play is not the place to play out your neuroses because , in doing so, you can hurt people. It must be consensual; anything done to to a person without their consent shows at best a lack of respect and more often is abusive. Good guiding principles.
Safe Sex – is sex which does not impair the physical or emotional health of either partner, and involves precautions like wearing condoms, using denttal dams, being careful to protect yourself against blood, not taking part in any risky bdsm activities unless you know exactly what you’re doing and have your partners informed consent, and avoiding risky bdsm activities if you’ve been drinking or taking drugs.
Scat – is play involving feces (shit); eating it, smearing it over things, being shit upon, etc.
Scene (sceneing) – bdsm activity between two or more people. Used as a noun, ‘scene’ is often used to describe the whole bdsm community or the many aspects of it you might come across, like ‘scene parties’ or ‘scene clubs’. It can also be used to describe an individual bdsm session, as in “I had a great scene with her last night”. It can also be used as a verb, as in “do you want to scene with me”, meaning do you want to have a bdsm session with me, or “she spends her life sceneing”. Used in this way, it is synonymous with the word ‘play’.
Shibari – (japanese bondage) – an elaborate, and to some beautiful, rope bondage developed in the Orient where it was originally used as a torture technique. It combines the usual bondage-effect of helplessness with aesthetic beauty and in some cases an intense erotic massage (caused by the pressure of the ropes and knots) that’s similar to acupressure techniques and traditional Japanese shiatsu massage.
Slave – in its traditional meaning is a person who is the legal property of another and is therefore forced to obey them. In bdsm, someone may adopt the role of slave for the duration of a ‘scene’ or play-session or they may enter into a long-term, structured D/s relationship in which they are owned as a ‘slave’ by a dominant ‘master’. The word ‘slave’ is incorrectly interchanged with ‘submissive’ by those unfamiliar with the differences. The two terms/words have distinct different meanings. Every slave is submissive, but every submissive is not a slave.
Spanking – involves striking your partners buttocks with your hand or a sometimes a flat implement like a hairbrush or paddle. The most common position for spanking is ‘OTK’, or ‘Over The Knee’.
Spreader Bar – a bondage device, the spreader is a rigid bar of varying lengths, attached at the ends either to the wrists or ankles, which keeps the arms or legs apart and renders the submissive helpless.
St Andrews Cross – is an X-shaped cruxifiction device usually made of wood. The submissive is tied or chained to the cross, either facing towards or away from it, depending on what you intend to do with her.
Sub Space – is a blissful and euphoric state reported by some submissives during bdsm play. Also called ‘bottom-space’, ‘flying’ or an ‘endorphin-high’
Submissive – is a person of either gender who submits to the will of a dominant, either for limited bdsm play or within a longer-term relationship.
Suction Cups – are cups which are placed over the breasts to create a partial vacuum inside, sometimes assisted by pumps. The tissue inside becomes engorged with blood and expands, increasing its sensitivity.
Suspension Bondage – is an advanced bondage technique in which the submissive is ‘suspended’ off the ground by means of ropes or other restraints.
Switch – is the name for a person who enjoys both the submissive and dominant roles at different times.
Top – a ‘top’ gives the pain or sensation which a ‘bottom’ wishes to receive, so for example in a spanking the ‘top’ will administer the spanking and the ‘bottom’ will be spanked. The word can also be used as a verb (as in ‘topping’ someone, meaning to give them pain or sensation).The words ‘top’ and ‘bottom’ are often used interchangeably with ‘dominant’ and ‘submissive’ but they are not synonymous. In relations between a dominant and a submissive there is always an exchange of power, where the submissive agrees to submit to the will of the dominant. That same surrender isn’t required or implied in a session between a ‘top’ and a ‘bottom’. Others sometimes equate the words to sadist (top) and masochist (bottom).
Topping from the Bottom – is a phrase used to describe a ‘bottom’ or a ‘submissive’ who tries to control the BDSM play session while seeming to submit.
Torture – in bdsm the word is usually used to describe the more severe forms of erotic punishment although what constitutes ‘severe’ will vary considerably between individuals.
Training – is a process whereby the dominant will seek to modify the submissives behaviour, responses or attitudes by systematic training.
Transvestite – is someone who likes to dress in the clothes of the opposite sex. Male transvestites differ from transsexuals in that they desire to dress and occasionally act as women, but do not consider themselves as women or even want to be. “Crossdresser” is generally the preferred term of those who participate in this behavior.
Transsexual – is a person born with the physical characteristics of one sex, who emotionally and psychologically feels they belong to the other sex. Some are able to live their lives in the condition they were born, but others feel so uncomfortable that they seek to change their sex through medical intervention.
Vampire Gloves – are thin leather gloves which have sharp metal tacks or points on the fingers and/or palms. The length and sharpness of the points depends on your degree of sadism.
Vanilla – implying ‘bland’ or ‘flavourless’, is a term used to describe non-BDSM sex or people. So for example you might hear someone saying they have a ‘vanilla partner’ (someone not into BDSM) or that they had ‘vanilla sex’ (sex not involving BDSM).
Verbal Bondage – is an imaginative form of bondage and is sometimes helpful in training submissives. It involves putting your sub into some suitable position (hands-on-head or kneeling for example) and then ordering them not to move on pain of your displeasure or punishment. The only thing binding them is your command and their desire to submit.
Violet Wand – is a device used for administering mild electric shocks. They generally have a glass bulb or globe at one end and use a high-frequency circuit, similar to a Tesla coil, to build up a static charge in the glass part, making it glow violet. Static sparks jump to the skin, with an associated “sizzle” and mild shock. As current doesn’t pass through the body these wands are pretty safe.
Virtual D/s – is a term often used to describe the relatively recent phenomenon of D/s relationships that take place on the internet rather than in ‘real-life’. Also used in ‘Virtual Sex’, ‘Virtual Scene’, or ‘Virtual D/s’.
Wartenberg Wheel – is a device for pricking people, originally used by doctors to test nerve responses. It consists of a metal handle with a free-spinning, metal pinwheel attached to one end. The ‘pins’ are generally sharp enough to feel ‘prickly’ but aren’t intended to break the skin. Holding the handle in your hand you roll the wheel over a person’s skin, creating the sensation of countless tiny pinpricks.
Water Sports – urinating on your partner or having them urinate on you. Also called ‘golden showers’
Weights – are sometimes added to clamps attached to nipples or genitals to increase the sensation. They can be custom made or improvised, for example the lead weights used for fishing.
Whips – fall broadly into two main groups. The first includes all single-thonged whips, such as blacksnake whips, buggy whips, and bullwhips. They range in size from around 3 -12 feet. All will produce an intense burning sensation while the larger ones, if used injudiciously, can cut skin like a knife. The second main group is the multi-thonged whips, which includes a wide range of implements like the cat ‘o’ nine tails, two-tailed quirts, and other softer ‘floggers’.
Courtesy of The Alternative Writers Association