Do you think that some people are just naturally more sexual than others? That it doesn’t matter whom they are with, they just want sex and it’s always good?
Forget about the stereotypes, think about you’re experiences. I’ve known some guys that say sex is no big deal. They can take it or leave it, and not stress. I’ve also known some women that can’t go two weeks without sex, even if it means they pick up a new guy every two weeks.
Those people, man or woman, that say sex is no big deal…do you think it’s because they haven’t felt a real connection with someone?
And what about the ones that crave it? Is it the actual sex they crave, or the possibility of a connection? I mean, it can’t just be the craving for an orgasm, because, face it; anyone can have an orgasm pretty much anytime they want. And, I for one, know that my best orgasms usually come from self pleasure
What about when you find that ultimate connection?
If you’re someone that says sex isn’t a big deal…and you find a long-term partner, does that change? Do you want sex more because it’s available?
Or if you’re someone that’s always felt they needed it. Once you’re in a long-term relationship, does that need diminish?
Sex can be good, and it can be bad. As women, sometimes sex isn’t always about the orgasm, but about the need to feel close to someone, skin to skin, touching and tasting.
Or do you think that it all depends on who you’re with?
I don’t think one person is naturally more "sexual" than others. Perhaps not as selective.
I think those that say it’s not a big deal, purposely don’t want to connect with others in a cereberal sense to avoid being hurt again and acting like it’s not a big deal is a cover.
To me, sex is a big deal. I can’t have it if I don’t have feeling for you. It’s the Church-going girl in me. That and there are too many accidents. I can’t have sex with someone I don’t see wanting to be in my life for the rest of it (unless laws against murder change) in the event of said accident.
Good question. It’ll have me thinking the rest of the day. Mostly I just talk out of my ass.
There are men who aren’t obsessed with sex??????
I think its all about who you are with. But also for me its about the connection, the feelings much more than the physical orgasm.
Yes there are people with stronger libidos then others, the sad thing is when you tie your self with some one who’s doesn’t match yours. (I read somewhere it is the biggest cause of relationship break up) and there are different times when libido is stronger.
On Mondays Oprah they had women from different parts of the world on…Sasha you would fit in very well in Iceland. 😎 The woman there are very independant, some never marry, even when there are children, the woman said having sex is no big deal, :hehe: the sex may be a big deal, but the fact of having it with who ever isn’t. A woman having children with different fathers wasn’t a big deal either.
As for having it with different people I wouldn’t know, but I do know that everyone in awhile I will meet a guy that totally makes me feel I would do anything for him. But like Grace I couldn’t just go out and have sex with a guy just for the sake of having sex. There needs to be a connection, even in my relationship if he comes home and wants sex now, I need time to adjust to him, and if we fight, nope not gonna happen.
Yes Suzanne there are men out there that are not obsessed with sex! Hmm and some woman too
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Tricky. It varies. I can go without for very long periods of time–and have. Didn’t bother me. And there are times when I want it ALL THE TIME.
Want it more if there’s a good relationship? Yes.
Can I enjoy it without?
Yes.
I have a friend who can’t go 5 days without. She’ll honestly go pick somebody up if necessary. She says sex is a NEED. Do I buy that? Not really. Something else is going on there, probably, that she ‘needs’.
Same with guys who ‘must have’. Is it the physical release they need, or the ‘male animal must have’ thing?
I think that most people, usually woman, confuse sex for love. That by having sex with someone might lead to that great connection, which in the end I feel that sex is as good as the feelings between the two people. My other half is not obessed with sex like most men and I often get insure about NOT having sex. Is it me? Does he not find me attractive? When I asked him last night he said" I don’t have to have sex with you to be in love with you.", god what a great guy!! I think that people are natural more sexual than others. I think that people also have different reasons for being sexual. Or atleast that is how i think.
For me, in my experiences, it’s always been about who I was with. I’ve dated some guys that I didn’t want to touch me (Yes, those were first and only dates) some that were great until they got to the kissing part then fizz and some that zinged. . .
I’m still reeling at the news that there are men NOT obsessed with sex …
Jill~ Maybe it YOU that inspires all the men you know to obsess about sex! :rolleyes:
Um…I am 33 and haven’t had sex in like..er..8 years…Does that make me weird? Non-sexual?..Non-attractive? I had sex a few times, about 8yrs ago..never amounted to much. Now, it just never happens. I think I am the kind of person who will have sex with someone if there is a connection, which probably explains why it has been that long, because..er..I haven’t had a boyfriend since then!..Shyte..that’s scary!..By the way, I LOVE this blog..best I have ever read..maybe it’s the menu buttons?..lol..Good luck with the writing Sasha..I am also struggling to publish..only got two poems published..many years ago..when I was a kid..so doesn’t really count..lol..Keep posting..I’ll be back! 😀 :crazy: :rolleyes:
Hey Coco!
I’m so glad you like my blog! I try to have fun with it. 😉
AND I wouldn’t say you were weird, or non-sexual. Being selective is a good thing. I think waiting for that connection is a good thing too. However, I think there are different sorts of connections. There is a sexual one, or an emotional one, or even a mental one. I’ve met men I like, and love to spend time with, but the sexual connection isn’t there, I’ve alsomet men that I want to jump every time I see them, yet When they open their mouth and speak my lust disappears. 😛
It takes all kinds, I was just wondering if anybody else ever treally thinks about stuff like this. :blush:
What spawned the thoughts? In the story I’m working on I described the Hero as someone that exuded sex. LOL Then I got to thinking about should it say sex appeal? can people exude sex? and so on. But I do love conversations like this. 🙂
I totally think some people exude sex. Or maybe it is that some of us can pick up on it instinctively. I always read that Scorpio’s exude sex. Well I am a scorpio and whether I excude sex or not, I guess I have no real way of determining that fact other than the fact I always get it if I want it, and if there are no willing victims, we always have self love. And who are these men that don’t care about sex? I have never, nor do I hope to, ever meet one! Good luck ladies, we should explore and enjoy all the senses of our bodies with delight!!! 😎
I’m a Scorpio too! 😀
Yes, Suzanne~ There are men that aren’t obsessed with sex. 😛
And Strangely, the men that I personally have met that feel that way are the ones that give off the most "sexual" vibe. You know what I mean. The guy that when you’re talking to him..all you can think about is sex? 😎
Now, I wonder if these guys think sex isn’t that big of a need because they can always get it when they want it. Or if the fact that they seem so blase about it is why I find them attractive?
The same for women, the ones that I know that are constantly talking about it, way worse than men I know, and saying how long it’s been and how horny they are , are single women. I wonder if it’s just the intimacy they crave, more than the actual sex.
I DO think some people are more "sexual " in nature than others. But I also think that those people that are innately sexual aren’t necessarily the one’s that are always Wanting it or Needing it.
Make sense? 😉